Papa woke me up in the middle of the night with this: I am very concerned about secondhand offense -- not just between us but in our families.....especially over the holidays, so I wrote this.
Be careful of secondhand offense. That's when evil, unfairness, meanness or sin is committed, not so much against you, but against someone you love. That’s when you're holding a grudge against the perpetrator and boy …if you could get your hands on them…. they would get a piece of your mind!
No matter how hard it may be, we need to resist holding anything against ANYONE. Here's what Jesus said; "And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your trespasses." (Mark 11:25-26) That doesn't leave us any wiggle room does it?
And what do all these little penny ante offenses add up to? Eventually they create a hardening and bitterness of our heart that affects all of our relationships.
Speak a blessing immediately upon the next person who offends someone close to you. Refuse to replay the offense in your mind. If it keeps rearing its ugly head, repeat the blessing and say out loud; "I forgive" as often as necessary. Don't go by your feelings. Choose to forgive regardless of how you feel. Reject the secondhand offense. Forgive!
Lindy and I love and believe in you! Have a great week.
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